Why would you do this to yourself when you can only be the best you! You form a plan, you follow it safely, you evaluate it, then you form another plan. Or you pay someone else to form a plan for you.
Self sabotaging your own success is very common, in fact it is the most common reason I hear for not going to the gym. (And of course you want to go to the gym…..because….do you even lift!! sorry, so funny.. ) seriously though, many times I have heard "they will be looking at me" (the seasoned gym goers) and I wonder how many people have not managed to yet attempt their new year resolutions because of it.
The fact is though, seasoned gym goers are looking at themselves in the mirror and themselves only! The guy doing bicep curls is looking at himself, and anyone else probably glances at you just to see if you are looking at them!! We are english after all!
One suggestion to try to break this mentality (assuming you have a programme or gym instructor at the ready, so programme design at this point is not an issue), is to deliberately BE DIFFERENT. For example, I feel much more confident in the gym when I down-dress as much as possible. Sometimes it may even look like I am going to the gym in my pyjamas!!! (Im not, keep reading…), I often like to wear clothing from http://we-are-hairy-people.myshopify.com/ because a) I love it, b) no one else is wearing it (yet), c) its absolutely non-typical sportswear. Its not the flashiest most flattering gym wear so that all other girls feel intimated. no. It says "hey I'm different, no, I'm not an elite athlete….I workout sometimes!" the whole feeling is different! Many women feel far more self conscious going into the gym wearing tight lycra than they would down to earth clothing.
One of the things I love most about my job is researching. I love to look at different sides of diet and fitness ideas and to way-up what is working and make predictions on all the recorded information from each client. I also make an effort to present information and methods to my clients in written media for reference and understanding by way of newsletters and articles.
By improving your health, you are going on a journey of mental and physical awareness. This is the essence of long term wellbeing. You get to know your body more. Results enables you to focus on what is working for you; what is making you feel good/ positive/ energetic (not stimulated)/ healthy in mind & body/ have a better body composition & image. You feel good within and you no longer have to worry so much. It's a positive cycle.
If you are not getting results, assuming you still want results, then you are still seeking answers and may also be more likely to focus on finding things outside of the body to make you feel better: alcohol (not talking a small glass), drugs (recreational and/or prescription), gambling, comfort food, comfort (insert any addiction here)…..
In this state of lesser health you may not be aware of the effects the media is having on your choices. If you have managed to resist adverts for fizzy drinks, sugary food and booze well done you! You are well on your way to results and better health. It is not just the bombardment of ads that we need to be aware of though. Bad or mis-infomation seems to be written everywhere, it even occurs in the news; a media people tend to look on as more truthful. There are numerous occasions people or clients have said to me "I read this in the newspaper yesterday, so I am on the right path, no need to change", or "I read this and now I am panicking, I've not got long left to live!!". It sounds like drama because drama sells. Often the media presents only a fraction of the mentioned study, or glamourises it, or sensationalises it! Even the BBC has an article online here which quotes from an MP "The problem lies not with science reporters and health specialists, who do an excellent job, but with the culture that bad news sells and reassurances do not", while a reporter on investigation said "Sometimes we in the media may actually contribute to an increase, rather than a decrease, in health risks". I believe this to be a fact and unfortunately the way this business is run until we stop relying on media and start becoming self aware and taking responsibility. (Relying on GPs could be another point here and the scope of a whole new article)!
Truth is, any health study is always limited in application, because everybody is uniquely different, what works for some will not work for others, depending on starting point, biochemistry, and many other reasons.
You can open your mind by taking full responsibility for your health and therefore not just believe what the media is telling you or wanting you to believe but by finding the truth. The truth is in getting results. Results which stay. Results which uplift your whole world, not just one part of your health at the expense of another.
Who agrees and is on the journey??
Less is More Fitness! Because you want to look and feel great, but don't want to be consumed by it!
Surely you need to be consumed by it in order to get results?
No you don't! All you need to do is the essential 20% of things that will get you 80% of the results, on a continuous basis. Sounds sustainable right? That's the basis for success. Now depending on your starting point, those essentials will be different from person to person. Starting a New Year brings many to try and do too much at once. Yet this method rarely works because you are tipping the balance of your life considerably. Whereas you might have spent more time and effort on other important aspects of life (family, relationships, downtime, work) you are now focussing on new jobs (getting to gym, working out, showering- this can be 2 hours of time or more, several times a week, also thinking about each meal you have, researching the best ways of eating, re-evaluating, then anxiously looking for results). Result: your life is out of balance compared to how it was. Within all of this, if your exercise regime is too hard or too easy or your diet is too low calorie or not nutrient dense enough, your body may not adapt how you would like it to adapt. You don't get the result you are looking for in the time frame and so rightly in your head it is all not worth it.
So how about taking on smaller changes, mastering them, streamlining them into your way of life, then mastering some more. Baby steps. This is what I have found to be successful to my own health and it makes it sustainable. You teach yourself discipline and the results will make you proud. And it seems quite easy! Which is motivating.
What could you master this week?
Drinking 2-3L of water every day?
Cutting out crisps and sweets?
Dropping sugar slowly out of tea and coffee?
Moving around (anyhow) for 20-30 mins, 3 times a week?
Result- you will lose bodyfat if this is new to you!
If you have mastered this level then:
Starting a home/ gym exercise routine that is suited for your body, 3 times a week? (Move around on the other days- walk?)
Eating veggies for tea with some protein, at the same time cook your lunch for the following day?
Cut out the morning juice or